I-decade eyadlulayo, bazalwana izicwangciso kuba kokuza China iqukiwe ukufundisa kuba ngonyaka, zimbini. Mhlawumbi nkqu ezintathu, phambi kokubuya ukuya KUTHI ukuqala wam ukufundisa career. Dating akazange inxalenye wam isicwangciso, ngoko ke, xa kuya kwenzeka, mna ke ngokupheleleyo unprepared kuba oko. Ukujonga emva, ndinqwenela wayemthanda ukwazi oko kwaba yokufumana ngokwam kuyo okanye ubuncinane ezinye iingcebiso kwi ilawula Isitshayina dating inkcubeko. Ukususela wam amava waba limited ukuba nje umyeni wam, mna onayo abanye ezongezelelweyo igalelo elisuka ezimbini i-american bloggers abahlala e-China: Jocelyn Eilenberg ubhala Ukuthetha of China kwaye Jo Kelly-Bai ubhala Ubomi Emva Eludongeni. Zombini bathethe malunga zabo ubudlelwane babo Isitshayina ezibalulekileyo abanye. Isitshayina guys, kunye uxinzelelo olukhulu ukususela nabazali babo kunye nokuza ukusuka elahlukileyo ngokwamalungelo dating, yi inkulu umhla enye. Ngoko ke kakhulu ngoko ke, ukuba umyeni wam asikwazanga buza ukuba umhla kum, wacela kum kuba naye kuba ubomi bakhe bubonke. Kuthelekiswa inkoliso yabo Western counterparts, Isitshayina abantu siqale ukucinga umtshato kakhulu ngaphambi koko kwi-budlelwane. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna izinto dating a Isitshayina guy, qiniseka ukubona yintoni impendula xa sidibanise into omabini ufuna ngaphandle budlelwane ngoko uyakwazi ukulawula okulindelweyo. Mna anayithathela weva stories ukusuka kuthengwa imithombo malunga Isitshayina abafazi wanting kumhla ukufumana bhetele nge English okanye ukufumana eluhlaza ikhadi. Zonke Isitshayina abafazi ukuba ingaba watshata Western abantu ukuba ndiyazi ka-kuba wabuyela yakhe ekhaya lizwe kamsinya emva wedding. Kodwa ke musa ukuthi zonke Isitshayina abafazi ingaba ukhangela kuba ticket ngaphandle China. Baya nje ngathi ayixhasi namnye ukuba abe ngaphezu vula i-unye ndimke. Kwi-umahluko nangona, Isitshayina guys abo umhla Western abafazi, bakholisa ukuba uhlale kwi-China. Inxalenye yale ivela zabo obligation ukuba care ngenxa yabo aging abazali oomawomkhulu. Kanjalo, kulula ngabo ukuqhubeka zabo career apha, ingakumbi ukuba babe. ubudala kwaye sele esekwe kwi-zabo career. Njengoko kuba free isixhosa izifundo, nangona umyeni wam mna kuphela zithungelana ngesingesi, ndiyazi eziliqela couples othetha Isitshayina ngenxa yabo boyfriend okanye umyeni akuthethi ukuba kuthetha ilizwi layo. Ukususela wam amava, ubuncinane, ephikisana abanye stereotypes, ifumana free isixhosa izifundo alubonakali ukuba abe omkhulu ekuqaleni kuba nabo xa oko iza dating Westerners. Kunye filial piety ekubeni wafundisa esikolweni ukusuka lokuqala-ibakala kwi, mna anayithathela ifumanise ukuba Isitshayina abadala bathabathe abazali’ ilizwi kakhulu seriously. Jocelyn ke ngoku utata-zala wathi, unyana wakhe ukuba waye wamkelekile kuba abahlobo kunye Western umfazi kodwa hayi umhla wakhe. Oku kufuneka zithe a enkulu letdown kuba naye, kodwa ngethamsanqa uthando uphumelele ngaphandle. Umyeni wam ke, abazali asoloko ndizixelela ukuba nathi into omawuyenze, hayi ukwenza njani ukwenza loo enjalo kakuhle kwaye njani nyusa abantwana. Presumably, kufuneka ahlangane yakho boyfriend ngexesha nisolko kunye enye isixeko njengoko uninzi couples ukuzenza, kodwa enkulu inani Isitshayina couples ukuphila kwaye umsebenzi ngendlela ezahlukeneyo izixeko. Udade mthetho kwaye umyeni wachitha zabo lonke ixesha dating kwaye lokuqala emine babo umtshato bahlala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo izixeko, amazwe nkqu, ngenxa umsebenzi. Noko nesiqingatha i-abantwana mna tutor kuphela khangela zabo dad kanye ngonyaka ngenxa oku. ‘Ngu njani oko kukuthi,’ impendulo ukuba abantu abaninzi nika. Ithuba earn ininzi imali rhoqo ngakumbi lucrative kunokuba staying ekhaya. Andiyenzanga baqonde nje indlela eqhelekileyo oku xa sasivuya dating, kwaye mna onayo lucky kwaye sifumaneke a guy ukuba likes ukuba uhlale ekuthatheni ekhaya. Isibini usiphinda-wathi ke wanikwa ukhetho ukuya Ngaphakathi Emongolia, kwaye triple ingeniso yakhe, yena ke intliziyo oko phantsi. Kwi-ngeposi kwi yakhe hetalia, Ndithetha China, Jocelyn recalls ibali a Isitshayina taxi umqhubi ndizixelela wakhe ukuba abe ayikwazanga yanelisa iimfuno zabantu abavela kumazwe angaphandle abafazi kwixesha elidlulileyo budlelwane.

Isitshayina abantu bakholisa ukuba Americans ingaba otyebileyo kwaye akasoze unikele kuthi ngomhla yabo encinane umvuzo. Kuthelekiswa indlela umyeni wam wakhulela kwi-i-Yenkcubeko Revolution China, modest ekhaya mna wakhulela kwi-yi mansion. Yena usoloko ihlawulwe kwi imihla, kodwa xa kokuba ithuba get yakhe uphando ipapashwe kwezinye elinolwazi incwadi egcina ii akhawuti kwaye ayikwazanga afford intlawulo, waba kakhulu hesitant ukwamkela imali ukusuka kum. Jocelyn wathi ukuba guys ukuba yena ke ebhalwe akhange na aphume ngqo zichaziwe lwabo locwangciso. Baya. nihamba kwaye ukuchitha ezininzi ixesha texting kwaye uthetha ukubonisa inzala yabo kuwe. Yesitalato intimacy iza pretty chu ukuba guys ingaba ezinzima malunga dating. Umyeni wam andiyenzanga nkqu bamba izandla de zethu anesihlanu okanye sixth umhla, kwaye yethu yokuqala asazanga waba eziliqela imihla emva koko. Nangona Hollywood ke portrayal kuthi i-american abafazi senziwe yi-Isitshayina ukuba kuthetha ukuba sibe bonke ‘vula minded’ (kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uluhlu elidlulileyo budlelwane nabanye ukuba amanani kabini digits, okanye ingaba vula ukuba omnye-busuku kumi) guys kukunceda kakhulu umleqa a ubudlelwane kunye uza intlonipho yakho kwimida ukuba ukhe ubene sicace kwaye ikhutshwe kwasekuqaleni kunye nabo. Omnye lokuqala izinto mna uqaphele malunga younger guys kwi-China bakho ukuze babe phantse rhoqo ukuzithwala zabo girlfriend ke purse. Ke iphinde engaqhelekanga ukufumana osetyenziselwa nibona nje ke abaninzi guys kunye designer handbags kwi izikhali, kodwa baya kubonakala ukuba yenze willingly. Xa ndicela umyeni wam malunga nayo, wathi yena ke zange uqaphele. Ukususela wam observations, oku kwenzeka phakathi -somethings kwaye ceases njengoko ingaba isandla-ubambe emva ezimbalwa sele a baby. Mna anayithathela zange wabuza umyeni wam ukuba ukuzithwala wam purse kodwa ingaba appreciate ukuba yena? uba isandla sam, nkqu emva kokuba isibini abantwana. Ukuba ke, malunga nayo kuba insights kwi dating Isitshayina guys. Eli nqaku ayi ndihamba ukulungisa nani ikhulu ipesenti kuba Isitshayina dating icandelo lomboniso, kodwa ezi zezinye izinto mna nento yokuba sele ngobukho xa ndandiqala waqala dating umyeni wam. Kwakungekho na engalindelekanga izinto kweli nqaku kuwe weren khange ngobukho. Ukhe waba na amava dating a Isitshayina umntu? Wabelane nathi yakho amava kwi-izimvo. CHARLOTTE EDWARDS-ZHANG weza China ukufundisa isingesi ukuba phezulu-yesikolo abafundi kwi-encinane town. Kwiminyaka kamva, yena ngu ekuhlaleni, okanye kumazwe angaphandle umfazi. Yena ufumana traded kwi isifundo ucwangciso kuba freelancing kwaye uzama ukuba mfundisi – unguye ka-Isitshayina cuisine kwaye, kusenokwenzeka ukuba, lakho, kwi-China. Uhlobo tone amanani emva ngamnye pinyin syllable ngoku nqakraza guqula qhosha ukutshintsha nabo kwi-tone marks

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