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Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba ihlala ukuba ezininzi Entshona-Isitshayina couples bakholisa ukuthetha isingesi kwaye landela Ikomishini yenkcubeko norms, kuba ngcono okanye worse.

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Nangona, ndiya kuvuma ukuba lo mhla akukho fun, ngoko ke kubalulekile iselwa ezibuhlungu kuba zombini.

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